It’s funny how a lot of people say: ‘Don’t judge’, but in a way we all do, consciously and unconsciously. First impressions are everything, no doubt about that. Fact is we all want to be accepted for who we are, what we are and the way we are. You can repeatly tell yourself and others that you don’t care about what other people think of you, and that may be true, but that still doesn’t take away your desire to be accepted in this world. Therefore you can truly not give a damn about what other people think of you, but you will still have the desire to be accepted for the person you are.
There’s this quote I’m sure all of you have heard it at one point in your life: ‘Never judge a book by it’s cover’. Which means you shouldn’t judge someone before really knowing them. But… According to this saying, you could imply that it is okay to judge a person after knowing what they are about. I find this kind of ironic, because the way I see it judging is never okay and it should never be okay. I am not saying I don’t judge, but maybe it is a part that makes us people human? No excuse though, but think about it for a second…
Why else would we feel emotions when we see certain things, which makes us look at things a certain way, we feel a special way and based upon that we form our opinions about every day things, but also people. And as far as I’m concerned I’m not necessarily saying that it’s that bad to judge. As far as I see it, we are all part of a world where judging is present and that is undeniable.
However… There is a twist side to all this. Because, even if judging is what makes us human, which I believe in a way it is, then that doesn’t justify how we are so quickly to make up our minds about something/someone. I mean, the way we look at things/persons sometimes isn’t the only way you can look at them. I mean, your truth doesn’t have to necessarily be the truth. My point being, sometimes things/persons aren’t always as they seem in the beginning. That’s why we should be really careful with our thoughts and the way we choose to behave in general and how we present ourselves to others.
Because we all have feelings and emotions, and no matter how much we act that something doesn’t hurt us and maybe therefore act a certain way, doesn’t make us insensible. One doesn’t go without the other. We never ‘just’ feel happy or annoyed or experience feelings of pain without a reason. It doesn’t matter how small or big that reason is. If you are/or have been easy to hurt, you will build a wall around you to keep people out. But to live a life all by yourself, is not the answer. I mean it may work for you somewhere down the road, but nobody wants to be alone, you are not an exception. The important thing is to choose the people you surround yourself with wisely. That is everything. Having positive people around you will have a good effect on you and will help you become better, stronger, brighter. On the other hand, having negative people around you will only bring you down and will add nothing of value to your life.
That’s why it would be better I feel if we would allow ourselves for the possible idea that people may surprise us in a positive way. Give them a chance, get to know them. Find out what they are about, who they are about and what makes them them. I believe there can be beauty found in one way or the other in almost every situation/person if you are ready to look beyond it all.